From a black man's point of views oral sex (aka head) is a very important art form!

It's an art form you must master with time and experience! You can't be scared to please your man. Being prudish gets you no where... Especially if your mans freak flag flies above mout everest! I'm a super freak and I only have a few hard "no's" so if your man is experimental and likes different things- it's best to know what type of man your pleasing. I have given these men their own name and category to help you know what type of man you have.

• The geek: He's the most perverted of any man. He's down for anything and everything. Don't let that shy shit fool you ladies. your performance level will have to be 110%
• The thug: He's raw, and rough and his freak flag flies high. Your performance level will have to be at 100%
• The lil dick: he's a freak that cums in less then 2 minutes. Your performance level on him can stay at 10% and he's still gone bust.

anything between those, or after those is a guess you'll have to make. You'll see different types of men and you'll categorize them as you see fit.

"You can stop reading from this point if you're not doing this!"

How to give head right the first time! (The Pro version)

If you believe giving head is “degrading” for women, save yourself the stress and stop reading now because this article is clearly not for you. This isn’t about morality. Its about you opening your mouth and putting something in it other then food.

Giving head to a man can be very awkward I'm guessing, and to some people “nasty, dirty, and filthy."  When you start looking at our d*** like a strawberry sucker, or your favorite popcicle it makes learning how to suck it easier.

Start by finding the right background song. A song that makes you feel invincible and sets the mood. You have to want to do it, and like doing it. Your energy can be felt.  Find a comfortable position so your legs don’t cramp up, all in the name of pleasing your man. Start from the top and work downwards Slowly; ease your way by nibbling on his ear, biting his neck, licking his nipples, kissing your way down to his abdomen, kissing his inner thighs and then diving right it. We Guys love to be teased! Give us a build up and the explosion is bonkersssss! 🤫

#1 Pay attention to the head, the tip, the crown! 👑

This is the first and very important step when giving your man head. The tip of our  penis is one of the most sensitive parts. Start by kissing the tip, gently caressing it with your tongue and putting your whole mouth on it.

• Important: Use your tongue >> your warm breath >> go slowly.

It needs to feel like you are French kissing the tip of the dick. Wet and warm. Twist your head in different ways around his penis and continue sucking on it. Enjoy the pleasure your giving him. (Tip: if your enjoying it, he's probably enjoying it too.)

While using your tongue to caress the tip, try going in a circular motion. Your lips should grip tightly on his penis so the friction feels better. (Tip: lips not teeth!)

EXTRA TIP USE YOUR HANDS!

Your hand isn’t only for holding our penis for support while giving us head, but also a good way to tease us. While sucking on the penis, use your left hand to stroke up and down, and your right hand to lightly squeeze and play with our testicles (one ball at a time). It might be hard trying to do all three at the same time but when you get a hang of it, it is extremely easy. (Tip: learn good hand, mouth, and tongue motions..)

Important: ✅ Give light strokes on the tip followed by one firm stroke down the shaft. Rub your fingers all over. It should feel like you are giving us a dick massage.

Step #2 Don't forget about the balls!

How to Massage a Man's Testicles Safely and Comfortably

✅Massaging our balls aka testicles is a great part of intimacy, and pleasing us. It’s important to approach this with sensitivity and care, as the area is very delicate. But it depends on the man, because some of us like it rough- I'm one of those! But Begin by ensuring a comfortable and private environment where both partners feel at ease. Use warm, clean hands and consider applying a small amount of body oil or lubricant, to reduce friction. We need it to be wet and moist. That dry crap is a turn off! Start with gentle, light touches, and gradually apply slightly more pressure if it feels comfortable for him. Focus on circular motions or soft rolling movements, always paying attention our reactions, and comfort level. We men are very vocal when it feels good and very vocal when it feels terrible. Communication is key, so ask for feedback if he's not giving you any. Continue to ask throughout and adjust your technique as needed. Avoid sudden or rough movements, as these can cause pain or discomfort. The goal is to create a soothing and pleasant experience. If your doing it right, we will squirm and become puddy in your hands.

Extra description & tips on not for getting these baaaaalllsssssss!🤫

When giving head, the testicles are often being left out and this is a part of our sex organs we need your attention on!

Also known as the “reccess stage.” You know when your mouth and jaw hurts from all that sucking. You can stop and use your hands to play with our testicles aka balls. That way you're still pleasing us but also getting yourself a much needed break.

If you are very daring, you can also suck on the testicles (flick your tongue around it we love that 🤫🥴). If you don’t feel comfortable putting our testicles in your mouth, just use your hands.... I guess... 🙄

 Important: When sucking our testicles, keep stroking the dick. Don’t stop stroking!

Tip #3 Make eye contact!

✅Make eye contact! Eye contact! Eye contact! It's more then the windows to the soul when it comes to you sucking on our popsicle stick! Some people believe eye contact while giving head can be really creepy but eye contact is literally looking at us enjoy the pleasure you're giving us. Indirectly you are getting to know what we like, and what we react best to. You can find out what we like just by staring at us. Pay attention to how we react to things you do to us! (Our body movements and moans will let you know if your on the right track.)

✅ Important: Don’t be afraid to stare! We like that shit!

Step #4 Experiment!

To spice things up, try giving us head with something cold or warm. You can experiment with ice cubes, mint, them little fizzy ass drinks y'all like. (coke), champagne, warm tea and ice cream. For starters, try using ice cube… You can put an ice cube in your mouth and suck the d***. This leads to fireworks and intense sensation. Ummmph! Experiments can be a wide range of things when it comes to putting our main vein in your mouth and who better then to learn how to suck it right from?? A man! We know how we like it best so we're the ones that can teach you how to thrive- not another woman. Her skills may be good but I'm here to make you a perfectionist at serving the dick properly just keep up with the content! Practice makes perfect.

Step #5 moan while you suck that dick

When you moan it sets a fire to our loins. We love a woman moaning and smacking on our dick like she can't get enough of it!

Tip #6 Dance with it! Let the rhythm take lead.

You know how with sex, every stroke gets deeper? Well it is quite similar to head.

Start with the tip > then go a little further and further till you can’t take it anymore or you feel like you're about to gag. We love this technique. (We prefer you not having a gag reflex, but if you do, we love if you know how to suck and gag at the same time- you will be everything we ever wanted. Secretly that gagging sound turns us on!)

Deep-throating doesn’t necessarily mean good head but it important to us if we can feel buried inside your throat. Try going down at your own pace, there is no rush. If you aren’t comfortable taking everything, don’t let us force you. There are so many things you can do with your mouth. If this doesn’t work, switch it up quickly! And let the energy get better & better.

Important: Go slow >>> then fast >>> then slow again

You shouldn’t be predictable. Start by planting soft kisses on our penis to gagging on it, to sucking on our balls and finally slithering your tongue down the d*** I'm telling you that sucking on us is an art and a performance. It's a dance and you must learn the rhythm! Being off beat will get you no where... You will just be embarrassed and we look at you like  cryptonite in the giving good head department.

Tip #7 Sloppy head is the best head

✅Since your mouth is your pussy’s substitute (both warm and wet). You need to add a lot of saliva to the equation, not over the top but well lubricated.. well unless it's me your performing on... I like the over the top kind of spit slather... So really depends on the man.

Don’t give head with a dry mouth.. If your mouth is dry, drink some water first to moisten it. Sometimes that won't work either. Keep jolly ranchers and fruity candy near the night stand. If you really want to wet your whistle drink a little hot pickle juice or lemon juice and double back with the jolly rancher candy. If you're giving us head with a dry mouth, the friction causes pain and discomfort to both you and the man. You can avoid this by spitting on the tip and using your mouth to spread it all over his our d***. Your mouth needs to feel as good as your pussy feels. That's real talk!

You probably think this will look gross, nasty and messy.. well guess what? It does but that's what turns us on. To be honest, we guys love it, and think that it's extremely sexy. When it comes to giving us head- the filthier you are.. the betterrrr!

It shouldn’t feel like you are being forced to give him head. You should want this as bad as he wants it. You are on your knees because you personally want to please him and not because he wants it. It shouldn’t feel like a chore. Add some passion to it.. again you can only charm a man's snake if you are a snake charmer! If your not good at sucking d*** follow these directions and you'll be a pro.

• ✅Important: Make sounds ( groaning and when slurping on his penis). It also proves that you enjoy it as well

❌Tip #8 Don’t pressure us to cum!

I know it might be tiring for you to suck on a d*** that ain't ready to cum and I feel really sorry for you ladies. If we're taking too long to cum, and you catch yourself getting tired- and literally over everything, don’t panic! You can either try 69 with us, or something else that can be more engaging for the both of us. Don’t pressure us to cum because if you do, we won’t! Try talking to us dirty while you suck. Sometimes that's the push over the edge we need. There's a rhythm to everything and the biggest trick to make a man cum is by being into what your doing. Invision being a porn star.. and your going to act in a movie.. perform like your life depends on it... It will feel good to you and great to us. If you just can't make us bust... Then engage in something else... Switch the energy and move into something new... Just make a smooth transition. Don't make it seem hurried or rushed because we'll pick up on that energy & it will turn us off.

Tip #9 Swallow our babies (Optional)

I'm not going to lie to you...we love when you swallow our babies! That shit turns us on to the max; but This is totally your call ladies. If you don’t feel comfortable with this, you aren’t obliged to let us cum in your mouth. If you do feel comfortable with this, the secret behind it is not tasting it but swallowing as soon as it gets in your mouth. This is where your imagination comes into play. Imagine our cum as ice-cream, or your favorite yoghurt and swallow it like the big girl you are! I know you can handle the 💦. (a few ladies are the ones told me to tell you this section)

Just know that as a man you swallowing us makes us feel invincible! It's a macho guy thing!!! It makes us feel powerful to be swallowed and finished completely by your mouth! But again if you can handle swallowing- at least try to allow the cum into your mouth and go spit it out afterwards. This will almost have the same affect. 🙄 

step #10 is simple- just have fun and let down your hair, and enjoy that dick in your mouth! If in doubt just follow the dick sucking commandments!

✅You are now in the pro league! You are now the ultimate destruction of a man! Now go practice! If you didn't keep up along the way, or you have a short memory, simply follow the laws written beneath this. ⬇️ You have all the resources you need, with no EXCUSES... Go suck a dick like your life depends on it!!

The 10 dick sucking commandments: here are your laws in order.

(My disclaimer:) Understanding and Learning About Oral Sex

Exploring intimacy is a natural and important part of relationships, and learning about oral sex can deepen connections and improve communication between partners. If you're looking for trustworthy and educational resources, there are many expert-led guides and articles available online. Websites like Planned Parenthood, and others provide medically accurate and respectful information on sexual health. Keep in mind that open, honest communication with your partner and mutual consent are essential components of any intimate activity. Always prioritize comfort, boundaries, and safety, and consider learning together for a shared experience that fosters connection. As always, make sure you’re accessing reputable sources for advice and guidance.