We simply want Acceptance for who we are.

A stereotype aimed at women is that they want to change the man they are in a relationship with. They want to mold them into their perfect idea of a boyfriend or husband. This is bullshit! Men don’t want to be changed or controlled. It makes us feel as though who we are right now isn't  good enough. We might feel unworthy of being loved because of you doing this. It's ridiculous for women to hook up with men they want to change. You should just hook up with men- that have the qualities your looking for.

disclaimer: This does not apply to all women, or even most women in truth. But it is something that all men are wary of...What men want is acceptance! Acceptance for who we are right now, in this very moment- flaws and all.

People do things in different ways. People behave in different ways. The Truth is, men and women are typically more different to each other than they are to members of the same gender. Many men feel more accepted by other men than they do by women, even those women they are in relationships with... We can be in love with you and in a relationship, and still feel unacceptable by you.

Your demand to change us hurt us, rather then heal us.Of course compromises have to be made in any healthy relationship – if a man’s behavior is upsetting or it harms our partner, he should make an effort to change that behavior within reason. But, if you want to make you man feel content in your relationship, show him that you accept him for who he is.

 Peace and harmony.

Another stereotype people have put on women is-that they create more drama than men. This shit is not true on any average, because there are certainly plenty of men who fuel drama in their lives and relationships, but I would be lying if I didn't say, we do believe women are dramafied as hell! it’s something that many men believe, and we are wary of it!

Men tend to like an easy life. Part of that is a life of minimal drama. Men want a relationship to be harmonious. We want a relaxed atmosphere and an easy-going attitude. Facts!

What we don’t want- is regular arguments, fights, or nit-picking. We can't stand a  nagging ass woman. We don’t like to be accused of things we have or haven’t done. We don’t like things to be blown out of proportion, or mistakenly took wrong.

We’re not saying that all women do these things. Or that no men do them. We’re simply trying to provide a general view of how many men see shit, so if your getting offended along the way- it sounds like a fucking personal problem to me.

Some space and independence.

Most men need more time and space alone or socializing with their friends than women do. Again, this is a generalization, but one that is closer to the truth than most others. This is at least 90% true for most men, so you can take this as Gospel!

This is the reason why it is often said that men need ‘cave time.’ Maybe we are less able to cope with the constant pressures and demands a relationship can put on us. Or just maybe- Perhaps we just need time and space to do stereotypically male shit!

**Where children are involved, many men simply struggle to be as active and hands-on with their kids as women are**.

Space doesn’t only refer to physical distance

but also to digital communication too. There will be times when a man feels unwilling to have a constant back and forth over text message because even that is an intrusion into his little manly haven from life.

you should feel able to demand quite a lot of time and attention from your boyfriend or husband, your relationship might go a little smoother if you give him some time and space to himself on a regular basis. (Js)

If you really value time together as a couple and can’t understand why a man might not want to spend all his time with you, it’s important that you find a man who doesn’t fit the stereotype and who has quality time as a love language too. Pick the right man for you!

 Regular sex, and for you to initiate it sometimes.

On average, men have higher sex drives than women. Whether that’s because of hormones or simply a legacy of evolution, men like to have sex on quite a regular basis. We love to fuck! Get use to it!

This can create a challenging dynamic in a relationship whereby the woman feels pressured for sex by her man, and the man feels like his sexual needs and desires are not being met by his woman. So don't fucken wonder why he's out there cheating if your not doing the pleasing.

This is an area where sensitive compromises need to be made. No one should be made to feel like they have to have sex more often than they are comfortable with. But it might be the case that having sex more often than you would personally choose to is still within your comfort levels. In which case, your man is likely to appreciate the additional sexual contact a great deal.

**Another stereotype but is most definitely, true is that men are more likely to be the ones to initiate sex in a relationship. But hint-hint ladies nearly all men find it a huge turn on when you're the one to initiate some good fuckery.**

It makes us feel sexually attractive. It communicates to us that you really enjoy the sex you have with us, which makes us feel more confident about our performance in bed (a worry that affects many men).

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For you to tell us what the fuck you want.

Nobody can read minds, as helpful as that would be. So when it comes to relationships, it helps to be clear and open with what you want from us! Simplify that shit for us.

Men tend to be terrible at reading between the lines of your request.

We're not ignoring you, but that shit is like speaking a whole nother language to us. we're not great at understanding body language or tone of voice. Until you get to yelling at us, and by then we're like, " what the fuck!" We prefer for you to be bold and blunt. We like it  told to us  straight what it is that is being asked of us.

Many men are very literal in their understanding of requests

which means that you might have to ask us to do the same thing on different occasions, even when it seems clear to you that you’d like us to be responsible for that thing at all times. This is sad, but true. So don't get mad at us. It's really how we're wired.

Maybe you’d like them to be the one who cleans the dishes, and you’d like it to be done every two weeks minimum. Being told that explicitly is a man’s preferred way to communicate. This shit is our language!! This kind of talk is what we understand! 

We don't understand, "babe will you do the dishes today?" But then you ask the same thing again next Tuesday or when you get tired of doing them. Just say,, "get your ass up and do the damn dishes every Tuesday!"

Ambiguity of message will be met with inconsistency

in behavior. Clarity of message will be more likely to be met with consistency in behavior. We're like fucking robots when it comes to inputting codes and languages we can understand.

If a man offers to do something for you, be clear with a yes or no answer. Avoid saying things like “If you want…” or “It’s up to you.” we hate that shit, and it confuses us.

And while it may seem as though men like to have things our own way most of the time, we love  it when you provide your input on decisions that have to be made. So don’t leave it up to us to choose a restaurant or movie – state your preference if you have one. Remember, men like to please their partners too! We'll go along with your bullshit if it makes you happy.

In fact, if you always allow us to make decisions for  both of us, because you think it will make us happy, we may begin to resent you for it. We don't want the pressure of trying to choose something that will keep you happy too. We'd much prefer it if you spoke up and said what the fuck you want in any given situation.

Traditional gender roles.

We may not always say so, but many men still see traditional gender roles as an effective way to live as a couple. While more women work than ever before, it’s still common for a woman to take on a greater share of the household chores and childcare duties.

Whether this is how things should  be is something you’ll have your own point of view on, and it can affect how your relationships dynamics pan out. If you are in favor of a more equal split of responsibilities that are traditionally seen as the wife’s or girlfriend’s role, you’ll want to be sure the guy is on the same page... But real men are traditional. Only these little boys are in favor of a woman doing everything.

To feel appreciated.

It’s not only women who can feel taken for granted by their partner. We do too! When a man does something – whether you’ve agreed that it’s his responsibility or he does it spontaneously – he’d like some recognition for it sometimes.

Even if you take on more of the workload in the home, it’s still nice to show your appreciation for the things he does. Of course this should go both ways – he should recognize the effort you put in too. It's just important for women to know we need that type of love just like you do.

If he works longer hours than you (especially once a long commute is taken into account), be grateful that he’s hard working... You could be with one of those little boys who play with their playstation all day and smoke weed. Be grateful if you got you a grown ass man, even if you got to chew us out every now-and-again.

If he takes the kids out for a few hours one sunday morning because he can see you’re stressed by something else, make it clear that you see his gesture and are thankful for it.

Buy us a little gift once in a while just to say thank you. Give us a massage if we've had a particularly hard day. Do all the little things you like us to do for you, for us. even if we're not always great at doing them...

Strive for a balanced relationship and make sure you both feel appreciated. That’s a key ingredient to a long-lasting relationship..

Your understanding when we make mistakes go a long way.

Falling back on the stereotypes again, men tend to be less emotionally intelligent than women. This means we are more likely to put our foot in our mouth, and do a whole bunch of shit that pisses you off or upset you. 

This leaves us prone to facing the  wrath of the she-devil, or having to deal with your emotional reaction to the mistakes we make. Even then we may not be sure how best to deal with the repercussions of our actions and can often make things worse, not better.

 you shouldn’t have to tolerate repeated poor treatment, most men will be hugely grateful for a bit of understanding when it comes to their behavior. We don’t act with malice most of the time. We actually feel guilty for hurting you. So to receive your understanding, and even your forgiveness means a lot to us. We're terrible at emotionally expressing things the way you prefer- but that doesn't mean we don't feel it the way you do- we just don't know how to express it.

To be silly! we just want to be fucking goofy sometimes 

We men tend to be less mature than women in many ways. Not only in the emotional sense as discussed above but also in our general behavior. We do silly things and we enjoy doing them.

We want to be in a relationship with a partner who allows us to be silly sometimes

 We don’t want to be serious all the time, and only deal with the important things in life. We want to let loose and have a bit of fun doing juvenile things at times. It's apart of who we are and how we deal with every day life.

If you scold us just being us- you are invalidating our feelings. You are telling us that we should behave more appropriately for our age and that you don’t find our behavior funny. The truth is the kid in us never leaves unless there's something broken inside of us.

This links back in with the first point about acceptance – we want to feel that we can be ourselves and do things like pulling pranks or telling childish jokes without facing ridicule... Or be looked at stupid.

 A safe space in which to be vulnerable.

We often find it easier to open up to women than to other men. We don’t have to show the same bravado around women and can be more honest about how we really feel. And this is an important thing for a man to have in a relationship.

 We need to feel that it is okay to be vulnerable, and show our feelings without being made to feel weak or awkward. Just like anyone else, we want to be heard, and to have someone show us compassion when we are having a hard time.

Without this safe space, we will bottle up our feelings. This will have a negative impact at a later date when those feelings either explode out in an uncontrolled manner or manifest in some other way.

By providing a considerate ear to listen to your man, you will improve your communication and reap the benefits of a closer relationship.

Your belief in us! 

Most people doubt themselves a little bit, men included. And so it makes a huge difference to your confidence when someone else believes in you.

When you tell and show us how much you believe in us when we attempt any sort of goal, you are affirming our worth and our abilities. That can make all the difference in whether or not we  succeeds at that goal There's nothing like having your partner in your corner rooting for you.

regardless of the damn outcome of the goal, when we knows you believe in us, it makes us feel valued and trusted. It will boost our self-esteem and help motivate us to keep going when obstacles cross our path! Just knowing your the in our corner goes further then you could ever imagine.

Your respect means the most!

Let’s be clear on one thing: respect needs to go both ways in any relationship!! A relationship without it- is doomed to end.

Respect is demonstrated in so many different ways, and many of which we’ve touched upon in this article. In general, it means treating each other well and being thankful for what you each bring to the relationship.

When a man feels respected by you, he will raise his game and seek to grow as a person. Respect is fuel for self-worth and makes us men want to be a better partner or father or member of society.

It feels good to be respected and it encourages respect to be shown back. Respect is essential to a healthy relationship and men know this, and so do women.