Easy at First but You Have to Switch It Up!

In the beginning, all men are relatively easy to satisfy. However, we can get bored easily with the same mundane sex. With black men, you'll have to switch it up in order to keep us engaged and satisfied. Our wants and needs— sexually changes depend on our partner. Yes, like all men we want to cum; but we need to be fed and enticed. We like when you animalisticly tease us—Role play, whispering dirty thoughts in our ear, being free sexually with no inhibitions, and trying new things can all add excitement and pleasure to your sexual escapades. Whatever you plan for us have to be freaky and meet our requirements of what freaky is. For example:

watersports/pissplay— Golden showers is my favorite water sport!

Turn on? Yes, if we're the ones pissing on you or in you.✅

Turn off? Yes, if you want to piss on or in us. ❌

Black men by nature are 'Doms' or in the bdsm community understood to be Dominates! We feed off power and control. To look deeper into the meaning  of "dominate". Click the brown link to read on Wikipedia. "Dominate" generally refers to having control, influence, or power over someone or something. We are rulers and kings in that aspect—not all, but the great majority of us rather dominate, then submit. 

Deep Desires

The crazy truth is there's a deep, primal desire that exists within black men when it comes to sex. It has explicit and exotic taste. This goes back to our roots and the stereotypes that have been perpetuated about us throughout history. Of course these stereotypes are harmful and unfair, but I would be lying if I denied the fact that it's true. it's important to acknowledge that there is truth in some historical things said about black men when it comes to our sexuality. Black men are often viewed as more virile, because we are! More dominant, because we are— and animalistic in bed? No doubt about it, we're most definitely "The animal in bed!" Knowing these things about us gives you a heads up on what to expect. Embracing and exploring these desires can lead to intense pleasure and connection.

The Animal Side

There's a reason why the term "BBC" (Big Black Cock) is so popular in pornography. Many of us black men take pride in our size and strength, and there is a natural desire to fully embrace and express this side of ourselves in the bedroom. However, I shouldn't have to say this but— it's important to remember that there is so much more to us than just our physical attributes.

Being with a partner who appreciates, and respects all aspects of our being, including our strength and vulnerability, is incredibly attractive and fulfilling. Again we are dominate creatures therefore appreciating and letting us dominate you with our penis is a factor. We love hardcore and rough penitration. In some aspects the best description is we like to almost see the "rape-effect!" Which I describe as:

" Making a person run from the dick or making faces during sex as if they can't take what we're delivering." It's consensual sex but it immulates or depicts actual rape! I'm sorry if that's offensive to some, but our truth is our truth and what stimulates us are deep rooted  wild untamed genetics tied to passion and anger. It's a powerful and erogenous thing to let us punish you by way of this BBC. It's a way for us to explore aggression, power, domination, and pleasure in combinations that is earthy and erotic!

Make It Nasty

Black men often appreciate a partner who is willing to get down and dirty in the bedroom. This doesn't necessarily mean demeaning or disrespectful behavior, but it doesn't exclude it either—This is why there's a need for black men to get more involved in the BDSM community. It's a great outlet to express sexual urges and assert dominance.

whispering and licking in our ears, being free sexually with no inhibitions, and incorporating a bit of dominance and submission. Just remember to always communicate with your partner and ensure that both of you are comfortable with the level of nastiness. If you give a black no rules expect us to accept the challenge with a thrill, just be prepared for top tier freakiness and dominatrix.

With regular partners we simply expect an openness to explore the more extreme and taboo aspects of sexuality. Anal play, bondage, bdsm, s&m,  power dynamics can all be exciting and pleasurable for both partners when done with consent and respect! One thing you must remember is—what your not fulfilling another man or woman is willing.

A black guy will not go without something he desires in the bedroom. So expect for him to look outward to be satisfied. This is why it's important to embrace relationships with individuals who match you sexually and is willing to engage in your fetishes and kinks.

The 12-Step Guide: To pleasing Black men

What Black Men Really Want in the Bedroom

Black men are like all men, but we are all different men— which mean we come with other requirements, that' stem from culture, race, and background. Black men have some of the same desires as any other man, but there are certain desires and preferences that are more commonly found among black men. Here is your 12 (twelve) step guide to  explore.

The 12 Step Guide

1.) Communicate: Talk to your black man about their desires and preferences. This will help you understand what they want and how you can bring them pleasure. If you're a white man or woman this is something you really need to know. So if you don't know what we desire ask. Most black men will be bold and honest if you allow us to approach the topic without judgement or criticism.

2.) Explore: Take the time to explore our body. This includes our erogenous zones and any areas that are particularly sensitive. Black men, like all men, are easy to satisfy in the beginning. But, just like with any other relationship, the novelty can wear off, and black guys can get bored with the same mundane sex. This is where you have to switch it up and explore new ways to bring pleasure to your black partner.

3.) Get Wet: Make sure you are well lubricated. This will make sex more comfortable and enjoyable for both of you. I don't just mean pour on some store bought lubrication—if your giving us oral sex (sucking our dick: make it sloppy. Lots of spit! If your giving us vaginal or anal you will have to learn how to self lubricate properly. Nothing turns us on more then natural juice from sex)

4.) Be Versatile: Be open to trying new things and being versatile in the bedroom. This can include different positions, role play, and incorporating toys, and possible threesomes. Allow for kinks, fetishes, and other desires to be explored.

5.) Embrace Your Sexuality: Embrace your own sexuality and be confident in the bedroom. This will help your black partner feel more comfortable and confident as well. We love a bold strong lover who is down to please us and get pleased by bringing confidence and sex appeal into the bedroom. You may also be dealing with a bisexual black male and it's good to explore his wants and needs also, and accepting that sexuality is on a spectrum and should be explored without judgement.

6.) Give Your All: Give your all in the bedroom. This means fully committing to the experience and being present in the moment. Don't take doubt with you into the bedroom. It's a definite mood killer!

7.) Love What You Do: Love what you do in the bedroom. This will make the experience more enjoyable for both of you. When you love pleasing us, it turns us on even more. We can feel the vibe through what your doing to stimulate us.

8.) Try Something New: Don't be afraid to try something new in the bedroom. This can include incorporating new toys, trying new positions, or exploring new fantasies. Build a sex room, or get into bdsm. Try things out of the box, because nobody likes being inside a neat little package.

9.) Make It Nasty: As mentioned earlier, black men appreciate a bit of nastiness in the bedroom. This can include role play, whispering and licking in the ear, and incorporating dominance and submission. This is key and that's why I'm repeating it! What ever desire a black guy has must be fulfilled with the most nastiest and freakiness of extreme you can give it—especially if you want us to remember your name in the morning.

10.) Cater to our Desires: Cater to your black kings desires. This means taking the time to understand what they want and providing it for them.

11.) Make Connections: Make connections with your black partner. This includes emotional intimacy and understanding. Nothing turns us on more then understanding, if you want to turn us off nagging will do that easily. We hate a nagging spouse, and would rather jack off then have sex with you. Understanding ✅ nagging❌

12.) Deep Desires: Explore the deep desires of a black man. Meaning be willing to find out what they are. This can include cultural experiences and historical context.

Conclusion

When it comes to pleasing a black man in bed, giving him power to explore and dominate is key, but also submitting to his kinks, fetishes and desires are a powerful key! To find out the most dealing with our sexual needs ask with intent to understand, and not to judge. communication, exploration, and understanding are key. By taking the time to learn about our  preferences and catering to our desires, you can bring a new level of pleasure and excitement to the bedroom. Remember to embrace your own sexuality, give your all, and try something new.

With these tips and the 12 step guide, you'll be well on your way to pleasing your black man in bed. Before I go let me give you one more piece of understanding. This topic of domination and sexual exploration in pleasing a black man is  only during sex, not everyday life. We don't like weak men or women, and we don't want to control you— if you're Looking to understand and explore what truly resonates with Black men on a deeper level?

Dive into an intriguing and thought-provoking article titled "What Turns The Black Man On? | Squeezing All Of The Juice From The Berry". 
This piece, hosted on the blog How to Please a Black Man, offers an insightful perspective about connection, desires, and understanding within the Black male experience. Written with authenticity and depth, it’s perfect for anyone wanting to gain knowledge or foster meaningful connections. Now take this time to go find your man, and be spontaneous. Pull down his pants and suck his dick!